Cunnilingus A La Carte: Adult Sex Education

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I am not an expert at cunnilingus. I just love it. Love it! And it has been my experience that any woman who knows she has a pussy eatin fool between her legs, will certainly guide them toward her ultimate pleasure. It really wouldn’t do for a woman to tell her passionate licker that their skills were lacking and therefor should stop. No, she needs to guide them, encourage them and don’t be afraid to say things like, “That’s it, that’s it, don’t you fucking stop!” Other directives that are really helpful and really sexy are, “slow down, Baby,” “Ooo, a little faster,” “I want your lips on me,” “Not so much on the tip, I want your whole mouth on me,” “Just keep it there, and slow.”

 

When I want to give my lady a little a la carte sumpin sumpin I don’t warn her. I strip her panties and get busy. Here are the steps I take.

 

Opening Her Up

 

So, you’ve stripped her panties, laid her on something soft, and now you are just breathing hot urgent breath onto her tender bits as she softly plays with the hair at the top of your head. You need to Open Her Up. Without spreading her outer fleshy lips slide a shallow flat tongue from the bottom of her vaginal opening up to her mons, barely grazing her sheathed clitoris as you pass by. Repeat this action, digging deeper into her vaginal canal each time you start, dragging her juices the length of her. (One really fun thing about the vulva is wet begets wet so just being wet wakes it want to be wetter.) You should always avoid a direct lick of the clit at this stage because it is, in a sense, sleepy and it needs a little time to wake up. Once the outer lips are good and slick, gently spread them with your hands, pull back and admire the full view of her magnificent genitalia. You want that. You know you do. Get it!

 

Kiss, lick, nuzzle, and softly nibble her outer lips moving inward to lick her now wet inner labia. Lick with the flat edge of a thinned tongue from the bottom of her vaginal opening along the edge of her labia to the clit, avoiding the tip and instead sliding your tongue over top of the clit then back down. You can do this for a while, teasing more at the clit, flicking the tip. What you are really trying to do is let the clit know you want it but that it isn’t its time yet.

 

Oh, how quickly time passes and you have yourself an opened up woman. It’s time to get busy. I suggest the Two Tongues stroke.

 

Two Tongues

 

It’s call the Two Tongues because I am told that it feels like there are two tongues stroking at the same time rather than one mouth. It is very basic but is what is needed to get her to the edge without wearing out the clit. The tip and the underside of your tongue strokes the top of the shaft of the clitoris while your very wet bottom lip massages the clit tip slowly in a circle. You just keep that up, slow and steady, lashing the clit tip now and then with your tongue. This is an excellent time, if you haven’t already started, to be stimulating her nipples or fingering her or both. It really gives me a tremendous sense of power and satisfaction when I have a mouth full of vulva and hands full of breast, rolling hard nipples between my fingers and thumbs. As she nears orgasm, start massaging her clit tip with your tongue instead, without breaking rhythm. Every few swirls of your tongue, give her a hard suck.

 

And she comes!

 

Now, she has evicted you from her vulva due to too much, too much stimulation. But she’s nearly caught her breath and her legs have slacked. Time to get back to work.

 

Don’t fucking touch that clit. Just kiss softly all over her dewy tender parts, her thighs, her outer lips, nuzzle into her mons and breathe hot breath down on her vulva. Her body will let you know it wants a little more licking but you won’t lick. You will plant deep tender kisses atop her clit. Sucking her into your soft wet mouth then letting her slide out. Soon enough she won’t let you let her clit slide out of your mouth and then you will know it is time for The Closer.

 

The Closer

 

Push up her mons so her clitoris pokes out of the hood. Then surround the clit with your lips and slowly suck, with only an occasional soft brush of your tongue. Then when she starts thrusting into your lips, lower your soft wet tongue and undulate it side to side in a figure eight around the hard clit, with each undulation following smoothly behind the other. It shouldn’t feel at all harsh to her. It should feel soft and hot and juicy. When she is showing signs of an inevitable orgasm, swallow some of the spit that is acting like a super lubricant so that more of the roughness of your tongue is now directly in contact with her clit. Then you suck a little harder, undulate a little deeper. As she begins to come, swallow all of the spit and bear down on her, sucking as hard as she can take, grinding your tongue into her clit with unending, unwavering pressure. If her vocalizations go from, “Mm! Mm! Mm!” to “FUUUUUCK!” you’ll know you did it right.

 

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7 thoughts on “Cunnilingus A La Carte: Adult Sex Education

    1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate your bravery. Please do share this if you feel comfortable doing so but if you don’t that is also acceptable . Adult Sex Ed Month exists so we can have an open discussion about sex. Thanks for joining the conversation.

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