The Art Of The Cock: Week 12 – Genital Love

Ambivalence and distaste for the sensual qualities of genitalia leads to some of the sexual dysfunction prevalent in heterosexual relationships.

Until recently I thought lack of confidence, misinformation, miseducation, immaturity, conservative upbringing, religion, social pressure, and the busyness of life was preventing otherwise sexually healthy people from enjoying the sensual qualities of their partner’s genitalia. I’m sure all of those factors and more contribute to sexual dysfunction but until this month I had not considered that unless someone actually enjoys and desires the genitalia of their partner, then efforts to remove the other impediments to pleasure will be fruitless.

IMG_0015 4 copyI thought you had to want the cock or pussy(vulva) of your lover if you took pleasure from it and gave it pleasure. I was wrong. You can’t make someone like something they don’t like. There are plenty of men who would take a woman with a vagina but without a vulva and plenty of women who take a man with a good tongue but without a dick. That may sound crazy at first but think about it.

Oral sex isn’t really any more explicit than any other sexual act but it is such a divisive issue. Oral sex is an issue because it forces people who don’t really want to deal with genitalia to have it shoved, literally, into their faces. Into their mouths. I love everything about giving and receiving oral sex. The smell, the taste, the feel, the sound and sight of a wet vulva drives me wild. I seriously can’t get enough of it. I think about it all of the time, both as a separate thing and as part of pleasuring a whole person. I have to imagine though to a man who hates the very sight of a vulva, having to stick his face in that hot wet place would be uncomfortable, to say the least. The same is true of women. Pee comes out of that thing and if you suck it long enough cum comes out which is hot and thick and strong tasting and burns a bit in your throat.

Doesn’t it make sense now? They don’t want your dick pic because they don’t want your dick. Someone who claims to be attracted to you should want to see your dick, to hold your dick, to suck your dick, to have it near them, on them, and inside them as much as possible because they love your dick and they can’t get enough of it, especially because it is part of you.

This is that heavy moment where change has to occur. You can deny it, of course, but you will be back here soon. You can promise to want less, to want more, respectively, but I wager you will be back here soon as well. Please remember that it is neither of your faults. I think you both did the best you could. As heterosexuals I think we all assume we are the same and want the same because we are heterosexuals, the default (assumed) sexuality, so we didn’t have to figure out what we wanted, what we needed, who we were sexually, at the beginning. We know who we are now and what we need. I hope we can honor that. I hope we have the strength to be who we are and stop pretending to be who we are not.

2 thoughts on “The Art Of The Cock: Week 12 – Genital Love

  1. Oh Eugene you really nailed it!
    My husband once told me your exact words…there are a lot of people out there that dislikes oral sex, thank goodness my husband and I both adore doing it to each other like how can you find a person attrattive without considering his/her genitalia.
    It is part of our body that needs to be touched licked sucked etc…
    Well Eugene I’m starting to feel a little bit warm right now….
    Jackie69

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